Key takeaways from book club: The Fine Art of Small Talk

by Carmetta Joyner

Fine art of small talk book coverIn July, the FWSF Book Club held a lively discussion of The Fine Art of Small Talk by Debra Fine.

Key takeaways

  • Take Initiative and Assume Responsibility: Don't wait for others to start conversations—take the risk and bear the responsibility of making others feel comfortable.
  • Master the Art of Active Listening: Show genuine interest through positive body language and verbal cues that demonstrate you're truly engaged.
  • Use Strategic Question Types: Ask open-ended questions like "Tell me about..." rather than yes/no questions. Use FORM (Family, Occupation, Recreation, Miscellaneous) as your guide.
  • Prepare and Practice Systematically: Prepare three topics before events and commit to starting conversations with three new people each week.
  • Exit Gracefully with Purpose: End conversations positively by expressing appreciation, asking for referrals, or inviting future connection.
  • Avoid Conversation Killers: Steer clear of controversial topics, health issues, and gossip, and redirect monopolizers back to inclusive topics.

From Connections Newsletter (Past Event Highlights): August 2025

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