Thank you, Carmetta Joyner for providing this insightful summary of the event
In February, we read and discussed How to Change by Katy Milkman.
Timing is everything: Fresh starts (like New Year's, birthdays, or life changes) provide powerful psychological momentum for change by giving you a clean slate mentally and boosting optimism. However, be cautious, as fresh starts can also disrupt positive momentum.
Make change enjoyable: Rather than relying solely on willpower, successful change often comes from making the process immediately rewarding. This can be done through "temptation bundling" (pairing something you enjoy with a beneficial habit) or gamification (adding game-like elements to mundane tasks).
Create strategic constraints: Combat procrastination and impulsivity by setting up "commitment devices" — self-imposed restrictions that make it harder to fail. These can range from "soft" commitments (public pledges) to "hard" ones (financial penalties or locked savings accounts).
Build smart habits: Effective habits need flexibility, not rigid routines. The key is to create default behaviors that can adapt to different circumstances. Track your progress, maintain streaks when possible, and try "piggybacking" new habits onto existing ones.
Harness social influence: Your peer group significantly impacts your behavior and success. Surround yourself with people who model the changes you want to make, and use social accountability to your advantage. However, be mindful that peer influence can be both helpful and harmful.
Actively combat self-doubt: Build confidence by giving advice to others (rather than just receiving it), adopting a growth mindset, and creating systems that allow for occasional slip-ups without derailing your entire progress.
From Connections Newsletter (Past Event Highlights): March 2025